Tips for Better Sex

by Jeff Cans

When it comes to sex, and getting older, you will find that the same old tricks don’t always work. If you and your partner are finding yourself in a slump, here are a few tips to help you out in the bedroom.

Compliment her.

When it comes to a woman, or whoever your partner may be, it means a lot to give them compliments before, during, and after sex. Try to make your compliments more intimate, and this will change everything. The more intimate your compliments become, the more they will feel like you are truly admiring them.

Find the G-spot.

Everyone has one, whether you are a man or a woman. Once you find it, remember that area forever. Even if you think you have found it, keep looking to make sure that you have actually found it. You will be able to tell the difference between the real G-spot and the just the area around it.

man who is whispering sensually to wifeWhat does she want to hear?

How is your partner in bed, how do they act in life? If your partner is more conserved in life and little wilder in the bedroom, remember that. Make sure that you aren’t pushing boundaries as that will turn them off, but don’t be afraid to experiment if you aren’t sure about exactly what they want to hear.

Write a love letter.

Be that clique guy that writes his lover a love letter. Make sure that you are writing your true feelings. Sometimes it is easier to write out what you are feeling, than actually saying it out loud. Your partner will love it and cherish it forever.

Call her.

If you have just met a new person, make sure that you are calling within 48 hours. You do not have to call right away, but the sweet spot is between 24 and 48 hours. If you wait too long she’ll drop you, since none of us like having mind games played on us.

Leave a voicemail.

If she doesn’t answer, leave a voicemail. Make sure that your voicemail is confident and you are coming off as someone who actually want to see her again. To have a confident sounding voice, you should try humming before you get the voicemail, this will help to calm you and bring your voice down an octave or two.

Pay attention to the whole body.

Instead of immediately going south, you should pay attention to all other parts of the body. This will show that you truly enjoy spending time with her and you love how her body looks.

Do not jump straight into the dirty talk.

If you aren’t sure if she likes dirty talk, don’t jump straight in. You can experiment by starting off with something not too bad and then going deeper if she seems to like it. Try starting in a public place with something simple and see where it goes from there.

Use a cologne she likes.

Try finding out what kind of cologne she likes and then work from there. If she like a certain scent start wearing it and she will be more attracted to you. If she doesn’t like your cologne and has made it clear, definitely start buying a new one as this smell can turn her off.

Hold her hand.

Holding her hand, especially in public places can help you two build your relationship further. Holding hand can be like an aphrodisiac and can help to brighten both of your moods and increase your feelings for each other.

Just kiss her.

Sometimes the best thing to do is just kiss. This can create sexual tension without you having to do too much. When it comes to women, that is sometimes all they want from you. It can help them feel appreciated and loved, all just from one kiss.


This will show her that you can be selfless. She will appreciate a man that can give to others, without complaining about. It is sort of like a superhero, you know one without powers, that helps others and this can be a real turn on.

couple having sex in bathroomHave sex in new places.

The same old same old isn’t going to work forever. Try to spice things up by having sex in different places. Try to have it in a different room of the house, a hotel room, or anywhere else that you can think of that she might find sexy.

Shop with her.

Take her on shopping spree, one for lingerie, and go in with her. You may feel a little awkward at first, but you will start to notice that there are other men in there doing the same thing. Help her to pick out something that you want to see her wear and then pay for it for her. She will love that you made a contribution and she will be wearing it in the bedroom for you later on.

Mix things up.

Never be afraid to mix things up in the bedroom. The more often that you do this, the more likely it is that you will be find that old spark again. By trying new things, it can bring back memories of when you first met and how everything was about a “take me now” attitude.

Sit up-right.

When you are on a date, make sure that you are sitting at a 90 degree angle. This will help to show that you are confident and really there for her. Of course, you can relax a little and don’t have to sit in an uncomfortable position, but this can help to show you are dominant in this situation. It can be a real turn on for women to see this subtle body language.

If you are fighting, work it out.

One of the most important things about a relationship is making sure that you two aren’t fighting. The more you fight, the less likely you are to make it to the bedroom. If you and your partner fight a lot, it may be time to let it go. It is important that you are both happy to be around each other, if you want a healthy relationship.

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